The Courage To Succeed!
by: Patrick Curl
The hardest part of success is the **courage** you need
to succeed--when you think: "I'm afraid to talk to
people.", or "I'm a loser, nobody in their right
mind would follow me.", or "I could never do
what he/she does..", or "I'm afraid to talk
to people on the telephone..."
When I first started out in on the internet I was in
awe of the money that could be made, and I was positive
that if someone--Nay, anyone else could be successful
in this business, then why the heck couldn't I?-- I'm
no idiot, and so I joined my first company, but it wasn't
as easy as everyone made it out to be. In fact it was
quite HARD. I spent two years of my life reading, studying,
and internalizing all of the writings from the greatest
minds in Internet Marketing, and conventional Self-help
Gurus. I read books from Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar, Mark
Yarnell(who is now a partner of mine), Leo Clements, John
Milton Fogg, Richard Poe, etc. One problem is that I spent
the entire time reading and studying...afraid to just
go out and do it.
However, one book that changed my life, for the better
mentally, would have to be Psycho-Cybernetics 2000, by
the Maxwell Maltz Foundation, and Bobbe Summer, the entire
book is written for the person who suffers from a poor
self-image.. the person who keeps hearing words in his
or her head like, "I'm not good enough", "Mom
was right, I will never amount to anything", and
a skew of negative thoughts about ourselves; about why
we can't stop smoking, or lose weight, about our inability
to have a successful relationship, and the list goes on..The
bottom line is that I spent two years seriously searching
my soul, *two years* afraid to START, and *two years*
afraid of success, afraid that I wasn't worthy enough
to be rich, and successful..
And then I stumbled upon the process known as the C.R.A.F.T.
Step 1: Cancel Negative Thoughts...
Your walking along in the supermarket and you see a magazine
featuring a supermodel or muscular hunk, and you think
"I'm not sexy, girls like that get all of the men..
I'll never meet someone with my flabby thighs." When
you are consciously aware of the negative thought say
aloud CANCEL! When you say it aloud you surprise your
subconscious mind, it not only hears it internally, but
externally as well, and it is twice as powerful!
Step 2: Replace the Negative with a Positive...
John Milton Fogg likened our mind to a balance scale,
that contains one thing--your habits of beliefs, these
are the beliefs you have about yourself, it is pretty
much synonymous with self-image; now on the one side of
the scale are your positive beliefs: "I am a great
driver", or "I am good at my job" etc..
on the other side are your negative thoughts these are
thoughts which say the opposite of your positive side...
We live in a pessimistic society where 98% of our habits
of belief weigh in favor of the negative..in order to
change this we need to begin adding to the positive side...start
weighing it down..and that is what affirmations do..ask
anyone who is successful if they use affirmations and
99.998% will say yes--you betchya!
Let's put it all together-you walk by a magazine featuring
a sexy supermodel, your first response is "I'll never
be as sexy as her, no man will ever want me.." or
"I could never get a girl like that with my body"
then stop, say "Cancel" and say "I am beautiful/handsome
in many ways, and I have many qualities that every man/woman
would want in a woman/man...and I am sexy.."
Step 3: Affirm your new image to yourself!
This is really a re-emphasis of the previous step--only
this time write out your affirmation on a note card and
post it somewhere you are sure to see it frequently..
eg. bathroom mirror, car window, desk at work, etc...Also
repeat your affirmations every time you do something that
is part of your daily routine for instance whenever you
brush your teeth, or walk into a certain room, or open
a door...this way the affirmation will become a quick
and unhindered thought process, and it will be completely
natural, and automatic...
Step 4: Focus on an image of yourself already being successful!
In my networking business..I write out a vision of myself
at least once a week, if I don't write it.. I walk myself
through it verbally.. usually while I'm outside in nature..I
personally like to look up at the stars and envision my
new self...but choose what method and place works best
This REALLY Does Work...Because your subconscious mind
CANNOT tell the difference between a REAL Experience,
and one that is VIVIDLY Imagined, so the more visual you
are the more likely your subconscious mind will accept
it! Use all of the senses... see yourself as a great trainer,
and leader, a great public speaker, and networker, see
yourself traveling the world conversing in languages that
you cannot yet speak--fulfilling all of your dreams..
see yourself accomplishing goal after goal, and BE SPECIFIC!
Step 5: Train yourself for lasting change!
Your goal may be to try something new.. such as dancing,
or painting. You may think "I cannot dance",
or "I am no artist" well the previous steps
in the craft process, talk of getting over the negative
thoughts, but no matter how much of a positive self-image,
you have regarding a specific goal or challenge, depending
upon the goal, you will have to go through the motions.
You may have to take dance lessons...
Now that you believe that you have the ability to dance
you need to train yourself to bring it out, same goes
for painting, you may need to take an art class. Networking--you
may need to take a class on leadership, or relationship
building, something along the lines of the Dale Carnegie
courses ("How to Win Friends and Influence People")
In a nutshell the 5 step CRAFT process will make any
self-image problems easier to overcome they will give
you the "Courage to Succeed"
But be patient--'Rome wasn't built in a day', on average
it takes between 4-6 weeks for your new self-image to
boldly step forward. Do not get discourage!If you want
it bad enough it will be yours!
In closing I'd like to say that, for me the hardest and
most strenuous part to building my business, was taking
that first step--it took me two years to work up the courage
to take that step but when I did..the rest became easier,
and now I even take my success for granted sometimes--just
keep at it...
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single
step..." --unknown, by me
and so it is with Network Marketing, and anything else
About The Author
Patrick is an Internet Marketer who's been making around
$10,000 a month since December 2003, when he was poor
and living at his parents house. He couldn't believe how
easy it was, and he's set up a internet school to teach
others how easy it is. http://www.timereleasedwealth.com